One of the hottest questions I’ve heard about dating and marriage is, “Can you marry potential.” Some people will say no because they feel that you can’t change a person nor will marriage change them for you. That is true. I person will have to want change on their own. Then you have those who says it’s okay to marry someone with potential.
I know some people who married potential and have amazing successful marriages. And then there’s those that marry potential and made one of the biggest mistakes in their lives. It gets a bit confusing at times, wouldn’t you agree?
You may be wondering what I think. Well, my answer is yes and no. I’m going to explain why in a little bit but, I think the better question is when to marry someone with potential. As you continue reading, I’m going to reveal to you how to properly identify when to marry potential.
Potential to Stay Away From
Everyone is full of potential. God made us that way; however, just because a man has potential doesn’t mean he is actively drawing his potential into manifestation nor does it mean he wants to. Because of that, I want to pull out a few pointers on the type of men you should avoid marrying until they learn to manifest their potential.
Men with no vision
A man with no vision cannot lead you properly. He doesn’t know where he’s going so he can’t know where he’s taking you. A man without vision does not plan or strategize for his future. Some may argue that you should only live for today because tomorrow isn’t promised. True, tomorrow isn’t but without a vision or a plan, he’ll just be floating around life without any direction. Is that the type of man you want leading you?
Men with no goals
A man without goals is like a woman who know she’s pregnant but never visit the doctor. He’s full of potential but have no action plans to pull it out of him. He knows that he can have something better, yet he never take the steps to write down goals and an action plan to reach that “something better.” There’s absolutely no nurturing of his destiny from his end. How would you fit into his future?
Men that are lazy and inactive
He’s a grown man. His responsibility is to provide for his wife and children. But, he’s looking to you to take care of him. He can’t keep a job. He won’t start a business. He won’t go into ministry. He won’t start an outreach. Like, what is he doing other than talking about how YOU are an independent woman? Nah, he needs to be independent, and he needs to get up and do something that contributes to you and the world.
Men who are not teachable or coachable
Please, oh please, stay away from this type of men. They can be dead wrong and will get upset with you if you try to correct them. Of course there is a way to correct them when there wrong but even then, to them, you don’t know what you’re talking about. They never do anything wrong in their eyes and your feelings will most likely not matter to them. A know it all don’t care about learning or growing. He won’t care about what’s right as long as he feel like he’s right. And you won’t be able to motivate or inspire him when he need it the most-which will make you feel like you don’t matter in his world. Trust me when I say that a man who “knows everything” is a man you do not want to entertain. He just ain’t the one.
Potential to Marry
Now that we have the “stay-aways” out the way, now it’s time to talk about marrying the right potential. These are the things you should look for in a man to determine if he is the “right” potential to get married to.
Men of purpose
This is my favorite. Men who have a purpose. No matter what you hear me talk about, you will always hear me link it to purpose. Purpose is what helps direct a man’s life. It helps to keep him out of trouble. It keeps him focused on the right things in life. When you know your purpose, change begins to happen. That’s why it is important to ask a man if he knows his purpose. Not only do he need to know his purpose, he need to actively operate in his purpose.
Men who can see past now
A man who can live in the now yet see past the now is a man to have on your team. This man has vision, dreams, and goals. He will be taking steps to prepare what God has for him in his future. Also, a man with vision is a man that will never tell you that he doesn’t know where you fit in his future but if he does, he’s lying and just don’t want to hurt your feelings or maybe for some other reason. Anyway, men with vision already know where he sees you in his future early on.
Men who go for what they want in life
Men who go for what they want in life are men who are actively tugging on their potential for its full manifestation in his life. He’s not all talk but he does what he says he will do. He has vision and his visions is what he’ll be working hard at pulling into his reality.
I hope this was helpful to you. Leave your thoughts below in the comments. I would love to read them.
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